The First lesson to learn in Self-Defense mindset is being prepared to defend your life in any situation, paying attention to your surroundings, and avoiding dangerous situations whenever possible. Nobody actually has the right to hurt you, intimidate you or even harass you. You have the right to protect yourself and you are well worth fighting for. The second important lesson is to learn to understand that your mind is your most valuable weapon, in self-Defense we use our mind to control panic and fear, use our brain to assess a situation and to judge the most appropriate action to take. We use our Brain to make choices and making choices is a big part of Self-Defense.
Self Defense is not just about learning a few techniques, it’s about what we do on a daily basis to make our lives safer. Most of it is common sense and the rest is just to make sense. Some things you just do without thinking about whether it’s wearing a seatbelt, crossing the road or using a knife safely. At one time people were forced to wear seatbelts in the car and nowadays people sit in the car and reach across without a thought. It shows that when you do something often enough, it becomes a habit, after that it becomes instinctive.
Body Language :- Staring at the ground, hunched shoulders, hiding your hands in your pockets and making yourself small, carries the message (i’m weak and vulnerable). Women get targeted as easy prey so having strong body language decreases the risk of being targeted. Make eye contact with people in a way that let them know you’ve seen them. Swing your arms when walking, take up space. Strong Body Language not only affects how others see you but it increases your own confidence.
Verbal Strategies:- Asserting yourself is an important part of taking control of your life. If someone’s behavior is making you feel bad, uncomfortable or scared then confront it to the person. Tell them – Name the behavior, Criticize it, tell them what you want them to do: – “You’re constantly touching me, I don’t like it, stop it” – Repeat if necessary. This is a direct, non-engaging way of establishing what you want, avoid saying ‘please’ when you are asserting yourself.
If someone is bothering you in Public, make it obvious, it will be more embarrassing for the other person than for you. Your voice is a weapon too.Yelling will alert other people around and can startle an attacker. It can also help channel your fear into aggression – Shout “NO” loudly and deeply from your stomach. Trust your instincts, if something does not seem right, then it probably shouldn’t.